Unexpected Costs of Child Custody Battles

There are many costs involved in fighting a custody battle in court.  Some of these costs are obvious;  attorneys’ fees, delays in reaching resolution, acrimony and stress for parents, families and children are par for the course in a child custody lawsuit.

But, as Halle Berry’s recent custody battle highlights, custody fights can take a toll on all areas of the parents’ lives, including their careers.  

Berry recently left the set of a movie she was filming due to her custody battle.  While we can’t know for sure, I would venture to guess that she gave up a large sum of money when she left that set. 

Berry has the luxury of leaving a high paying job to manage the stress, work and trauma of a custody battle. She will easily find jobs in the future and she will hardly miss the income from this one movie. 

But, most of us cannot afford to sacrifice a job to keep up with a custody lawsuit.  Therefore, we have to manage the stress, time demands, emotions and financial costs of a custody battle while also trying to keep our jobs.   Many parents find this very difficult, but only discover the difficulties of litigation after they are neck deep in the quicksand of a lawsuit.

Before you decide whether to resolve your child custody dispute in court, analyze whether you can afford all of the potential costs.  If you have any doubts, I would encourage you to investigate non-litigation options before filing a lawsuit.


Randolph (Tré) Morgan III is an experienced family law attorney accepting cases in Raleigh, Cary, Apex, Garner, Fuquay-Varina, Clayton, Smithfield, Wake Forest, RTP, Durham, Chapel Hill, Holly Springs and surrounding areas.  He focuses his practice in divorce, child custody, alimony, child support, equitable distribution, property division, paternity, guardianship and other family related matters.  

Planning for College in Divorce

In my last post, I discussed the need to face the reality that sometimes divorcing parents cannot pay for college and fund their retirement.

In these cases, children can frequently obtain loans to pay for their college education.  In these situations, parents can still be a huge help to their kids by helping them learn about and maximize their college funding options.

One of the very best resources to learn about college funding options is the College Foundation of North Carolina (“CFNC”).  This non-profit has a tremendous website that helps students and parents learn about ways to pay for college and post-graduate education. 

CFNC’s website has valuable information on loans to students, loans to parents, grants, scholarships and other programs designed to help students pay for college.

In addition, CFNC’s website has tools to help all parents and students plan for college while they are still in high school through transcript and resume tracking.  Plus, when it is time to apply for college, the online tools allow applications to be completed and submitted online. 

Not every parent can afford to pay 100% of their kids’ college education expenses.  But, with the help of CFNC, every parent can help their kids find resources so that college can still be a reality.