Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

The Downside of Marriage?

As a society and culture, most of us view marriage as an unqualified positive.  A hard thing.  But a positive and beneficial thing.

This article from The Atlantic explores what people may be giving up when they get married.  These losses can include extended support networks and opportunities to grow your other relationships and resources.  These are not a necessary result of marriage, but as the article argues, they are frequent results.

The article touches on several points that I find fascinating, from the impact of same-sex marriage on the couples’ activity level in the LGBTQ community, to the pressure put on marriage by the loss of external support systems, to the potential benefits of marriage alternatives, to the question of whether marriage or stability is best for kids (and are they the same thing?).  

I read a fair number of articles on family, culture, and society and this is one of the most thought-provoking I’ve read in a long while.  I hope you find it useful as well. 

Has Marriage Become Harder? Maybe…

The divorce rate in the United States has been worrying people for a long time. People have been researching it and trying to find the reasons for it for decades. I’ve heard a lot of theories, but I recently heard a new one. In this podcast from Hidden Brain, researchers discuss their theory that marriage has become more difficult in the last hundred years.  The theory, in general, is that we have come to expect far more out of the institution of marriage than ever before.  And those expectations have become so great that the institution cannot possibly live up to them. So, the theory goes, the higher divorce rates are a reflection of our expectations about marriage, rather than any flaws with marriage itself. It is a fascinating theory, a great listen, and food for thought for anyone that is married or may want to marry someday.