The Downside of Marriage?

Jul 9, 2019

As a society and culture, most of us view marriage as an unqualified positive.  A hard thing.  But a positive and beneficial thing.

This article from The Atlantic explores what people may be giving up when they get married.  These losses can include extended support networks and opportunities to grow your other relationships and resources.  These are not a necessary result of marriage, but as the article argues, they are frequent results.

The article touches on several points that I find fascinating, from the impact of same-sex marriage on the couples’ activity level in the LGBTQ community, to the pressure put on marriage by the loss of external support systems, to the potential benefits of marriage alternatives, to the question of whether marriage or stability is best for kids (and are they the same thing?).  

I read a fair number of articles on family, culture, and society and this is one of the most thought-provoking I’ve read in a long while.  I hope you find it useful as well. 

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