Blame is a big dynamic in both marriage and divorce. And yet, it almost never moves clients towards their goals. Brené Brown (yes, I am a special fan of hers simply for the use of the accent in her name) does a great job of breaking blame down into what it is at it’s heart: an expression of pain or frustration:
When I help clients improve communication with their spouse, I often use a simple analogy: every message has two parts—the envelope and the letter inside.The letter is the core message—what you want the other person to understand. That can be a simple fact or it can...
When people hear the term "Collaborative Divorce," they often assume it’s only for couples who get along well and are amicably parting ways. While it’s true that Collaborative Divorce is a great option for low-conflict families, it can also be an incredibly valuable...
Everyone has heard the old saw about what happens when you assume. But, in divorce, an assumption can be a great thing if we’re talking about a mortgage. Divorce brings change. Many of those changes are financial. Perhaps the biggest financial change in today’s...