by Tre Morgan | Apr 7, 2014 | Communication, Divorce, General Family Law
As it turns out, a divorce negotiation is a lot like a hostage negotiation. Just not in the way you probably think. I never would have thought about that. But, a recent interview with a former FBI hostage negotiator in Men’s Journal made it apparent. Gary...
by Tre Morgan | Jan 28, 2014 | Communication, Negotiation, Separation Agreements
There is a point in many of my divorce cases, whether collaborative, mediation or otherwise negotiated, at which the parties ask, “How many of these details do we need to figure out, and how many can we leave open?” The general answer is that there are some...
by Tre Morgan | Jan 23, 2014 | Communication, Divorce, General Family Law
Everybody has a bias. That’s not bad or wrong. It just is. No one can be completely objective. (Don’t believe me? Read “Thinking, Fast and Slow”!) The challenge, then, is to understand the bias so that you know how...
by Tre Morgan | Apr 24, 2013 | Communication, Divorce
Did you know that humans are psychologically predisposed to notice and dwell on problems instead of solutions? How does that play into divorce? This phenomenon is explored in Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard. The...
by Tre Morgan | Jan 6, 2012 | Communication, General Family Law, Marriage, Unmarried Couples
Many authors and theorists have proposed that the idea of a “soul mate” is a basis for our high divorce rate. The summary of this argument is that if you believe that your soul mate is out there, then you believe that marriage will work if you just...
by Tre Morgan | Dec 30, 2011 | Communication, Financial Issues, General Family Law, Marriage, Unmarried Couples
In my experience, differing and unmet expectations are often the genesis for divorces. Typically, tension develops because the husband and wife entered the marriage with unspoken but differing expectations about the issues they will confront after the wedding. Those...
