Proxies in Negotiation

When involved in a divorce negotiation people frequently use terms of the negotiation as proxies for measuring deeper issues and needs that they are afraid to talk about.  For example, some clients see time with the kids as a proxy of how much they are valued as a...

Are Your Rights the Right Perspective?

One of the first things that come to mind for anyone when they realize that they are going to be divorced is “What are my rights?”. Typically what people mean is “What laws can I use to impose my will on the outcome?”  That is a smart and...

Real Life Recipe for Co-Parenting Success

Years ago, we had a friend and neighbor that had the best co-parenting relationship with an ex-spouse that I’d ever seen.  Her husband frequently spent the night at her house to watch their daughter when she had to be out of town.  I never heard a cross word...