Are Your Rights the Right Perspective?

One of the first things that come to mind for anyone when they realize that they are going to be divorced is “What are my rights?”. Typically what people mean is “What laws can I use to impose my will on the outcome?”  That is a smart and...

Great Expectations

Clients frequently ask me in a first consult how long a collaborative divorce process takes. And I spend a lot of time thinking about what makes cases so different and why some move faster than others. One of the biggest variables I’ve found is the set of...

Divorcing Without Losing Your Communities

One of the saddest, but most common losses in divorce occurs when one or both spouses lose their communities as a result of the divorce (perhaps even sadder is when divorce causes children to lose their communities, but that is another story for another day).   These...

Ugly Divorces Affect Us All

Ugly divorces hurt us all.  Resolving divorce and family law matters in a non-adversarial process benefits us all. The destructive effects of an ugly divorce almost always reverberate throughout a community.  They can destroy friendships, parent and child...

Real Life Recipe for Co-Parenting Success

Years ago, we had a friend and neighbor that had the best co-parenting relationship with an ex-spouse that I’d ever seen.  Her husband frequently spent the night at her house to watch their daughter when she had to be out of town.  I never heard a cross word...